Breaking up is never easy to do, even if you have only been together a short period of time. If you have seen all the go-to breakup movies, such as Bridget Jones’ Diary, you will know that the usual reaction is to get bummed out, and sulk in front of a romantic film with a large tub of ice cream! You will definitely be upset, to begin with, so it’s a good idea to indulge these feelings in this way for a few days. But it’s a much better idea to try and get your life back on track sooner rather than later. Once all that ice cream has gone, there are some steps you should take, which will help you feel better. Read on!
Don’t Contact Your Ex
First of all, it is important that you don’t contact your ex at any point after a breakup. If you do, you will only drag up a lot of old feelings and could end up questioning the breakup itself. It is a much better idea to keep your distance and stay away until you know you are completely over the relationship. Once you are over your ex, it will be OK to contact them but, hopefully, by this point, you probably won’t want to!
Now that you are an independent woman once again, you should take some time to yourself to try and find yourself. Lots of people find breakups very upsetting and distressing and feel like they aren’t themselves once they come out the other side. Some women even find that they end up with low self-esteem and confidence. Because of this, it is a good idea to take some time to yourself and work on your self-confidence. Start getting back into all the hobbies that you used to love doing, and you will soon start to feel like you again!
Get Back Out There
As soon as you are completely over your ex, it’s a good idea to get back out there and meet some new people! These days, online dating is proving very popular with people who want to slowly get back into the swing of things. It’s also a good idea to organize some girly nights out with your girlfriends. You never know who you might meet when you are sipping cocktails at your favorite bar! Even if you don’t meet someone, you will be able to have a good laugh and enjoy yourself in the process!
Remember That You’re Vulnerable
You need to bear in mind that you are very vulnerable after a breakup. For the first few months of being single again, you should expect to experience a rollercoaster of emotions. While you might think that getting into a new relationship straight away is a fantastic idea, it usually isn’t Ideally, wait for about six months until you start dating again. Don’t do anything too rash, such as moving away or completely changing your appearance, either. We usually regret these big decisions that we make post-breakup.