It’s always terrible when a marriage ends between a friend and her husband. It could be particularly hard if you liked her other half and your families all spent time together. Here is how you can support a close friend who is going through a divorce.
Give her space if she needs it
Going through a divorce is a challenge, and there are so many phrases your friend will go through. She will be in denial at first, and then will get angry, before becoming sad about the situation. It will take her a while before she can move on with her life, especially if she was with her ex a long time. The best thing you can do is to give her space if she needs it. Don’t force her to hang out if she needs time to sit and reflect on the situation. Of course, it can be bad for her to dwell on the situation on her own. But you shouldn’t force her to meet up if she doesn’t want to. She will need to accept on her own that the marriage is ending. You can help her by offering to look after the kids while she has time to reflect.
Speak to her ex for her
It’s easy for divorces to turn nasty if the marriage ended badly. Therefore, your friend will need support to get her through the divorce. You will have to help her find some legal guidance such as Specialist Divorce Advice from expert solicitors such as Pinder Reaux. You may want to offer your services of speaking to her ex for her during the divorce proceedings. You may be able to drop off and pick up the kids while he sees them. Try and stay neutral while you see her ex. Be polite and don’t answer any questions about what your friend is doing. Try and not let your real feelings get in the way when you speak to him.
Treat her to days out
Another way to support a close friend who is going through a divorce is to treat her to days out with just you. Get your other half to look after all the kids while you go out with your friend. You could book a nice spa day for you both to enjoy or you could even go out shopping. Offer to buy her a lovely lunch or dinner which you can enjoy together. Try and avoid places she went with him so that she won’t reminisce and get upset.
Still include her in couple nights out
It could be hard when your friend is going through a divorce if you all met up as couples for a night out. The best thing you can do is not seclude her from the situation. It will make her feel worse about the divorce as it will be another thing changed from before. Still invite her as you are all her friends, and she should still be welcome. Be prepared she may not come, but she will be pleased you asked her.
The best way to support her is to be a good listener. Let her talk to you if she wants to and try and not talk about what you and your husband are doing!