Are you dealing with a breakup? We’ve all been there. The aftermath of love is always hard, no matter what stage you were at in your relationship. Even so, the way you deal with the loss varies. Do you feel you’re struggling to find advice that applies to your situation? Not being able to fit advice to the way you’re feeling can leave you feeling alienated. It’s important to remember that you’re not alone. To help you apply this advice to your situation, we’ve sorted it into different levels of separation. From the end of marriage to the cancellation of a casual arrangement, this list has got you covered.
Let’s start with the kicker. Lost love is never worse than when it signifies the end of a marriage. As well as having to cope with emotional pain, you’ll need to sort through the process of divorce.
The best way to ease the pain is to find experienced divorce mediators. Knowing a professional can help you disentangle your life will leave you able to deal with the emotional implications. Depending on the duration of your marriage, your life as you know it will change. The best way to cope with that is to make a new life. Secure yourself a new home, then allow yourself to grieve for what you’ve lost. If there are children involved, it’s important you stay strong for their sake. Put the extra effort your marriage has afforded you into your kids. Finding a good outlet for your pain is the best thing you can do!
If you were living with your man but not married, things are still going to be hard. You may not have to deal with the financial separation, but you still have to cope with losing your home. The fact that you and your man aren’t married could make the separation difficult in a different way. There’s no set in stone rules about who gets what. Make sure to stay amicable during your separation so you can talk things through like adults. If you’re on bad terms, your man could take more than his due out of spite. Make sure you get back the money you put into the house, and that you get your belongings as soon as possible.
Were you dating someone who suddenly went cool? The good news is that you won’t have to worry about separating your belongings. The bad news is that this can still cause some level of emotional distress. If there was a sudden lack of contact, it’s easy to drive yourself crazy trying to work out the reason. The first thing to do is not blame yourself. There are many reasons dating doesn’t lead to more. It may be that the two of you weren’t suited. To sound cliched, it wasn’t meant to be. Instead of dwelling on the reasons and placing blame on yourself, let go. Arrange to go out with friends. Accept there are more opportunities around the corner!